Rethinking What You Say and Mean
“Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators”
Here we go again. In a previous article, I broke down the inherent negativity and inherent lack of the truth in a phrase often cited as a definition of love: “Love is giving someone the power to destroy you and trusting that they won’t.”
We have yet another example of a very popular saying that represents things we say but we can’t really mean. “Let your haters be your motivators.” Can hate really motivate? Can the basis of your motivation be hate and really lead you toward the things you truly love and to create the life your truly desire – for yourself and for those you love? This isn’t about what you mean when you say it; it is about the energy of the words, what that energy attracts and the reality of what that energy creates for you in your life.
“So many of us are woefully unaware of the power of the words we use, the catch-phrases we latch on to and propagate socially and culturally, in creating more of exactly that which we do not want.”
Hate can’t motivate you to love or to that which you love and truly desire because a negative simply can’t motivate you to something positive. Motivation on a negative basis can only bring forth more of that negative, and primarily to the person doing the negative based motivating. Being motivated by hate will only bring forth more hate to YOU and more things to hate in YOUR life!
Why would you want to be motivated by hate and by doing so add more hate to your life, and to a social and cultural system already overrun with hate and negativity, as you recycle hate throughout your life simply by allowing yourself to be motivated by something negative?
A motivation based in love and true desire brings forth more love and more things you truly desire. Being motivated by love is positive, positive energy, positive feeling and positive creating. The only way to counter hate and negativity in your life is to replace it, not with more of itself, but with its opposite, LOVE!
My life, like all others, has provided many opportunities, personal and professional, to either ‘go hate’ or ‘go love.’ Any time I spent in hate in response to negative experiences and circumstances was dark, consuming, emotionally and physically draining and exhausting – no matter how righteous the indignation. And in the end, as I continued to hate, only I continued to hurt.
In contrast, whenever I chose to ‘go love’ in response to a negative situation, my burdens lightened, the path between hurt and pain and my victory over it shortened significantly and the doors of creative power and opportunity opened before me in ways that could never have imagined and would never have experienced in ‘going hate.’
For example, in my previous career I had the experience of being let go from a job suddenly, without any warning and despite stellar performance. When I asked why, I was told, ‘you’re an at will employee, I don’t need a reason.’ I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel the hate of that experience and didn’t feel hate in response. Yet hate didn’t motivate me out of that experience, love did.
Choosing to ‘go love’ as my response, led to the creation of my coaching and consulting practice, Sunrise Consulting, LLC, and to my professional, intellectual, personal and emotional freedom from doing work and working with people that no longer served me nor my best interests. ‘Going hate’ would have consumed me and only to my detriment. ‘Going hate’ could not have led to the re-creation of a career, a life and a person that I truly love and am truly in love with.
Love does what hate never can.
The only way to create what you truly want, who you really want to be, what you really want to have and the life you truly want to live is to be motivated by love and feelings of love. “Let the creative power of love be your motivation,” to bring forth what you love and truly desire in your own life and to bring more love and positivity into the world.
“Let the creative power of love be your motivation.”
May not sound as catchy, I know, and it certainly doesn’t rhyme. But do you really want to turn your life over to creating more hate and negativity for yourself and the world just because the catch phrase sounds cool, everyone says it and it rhymes?
What is your love motivation?